To The Little Black Girl With The BIG Name
Updated: Oct 18, 2020
To the little Black girl with the BIG name, your name is your identity, and allowing someone to say it wrong is depriving you of that. As Black women, we are programmed to be caring, and too many times we put others before ourselves. We are expected to bend and adjust to the world. But being asked to change our names to make an easier pronunciation is where it stops! Being asked to make alterations and special accommodations for your peers is not only microaggression but robbing you of your personhood. You’ll too have a laundry list of stories filled with teachers and baristas getting your name wrong. There will be plenty of times where you will have to pull the announcer aside to double, triple, quadruple check to see if they have your name down just for them to mispronounce it anyways. You’ll learn to spot the long pauses and see the beauty in the at first awkward silence. You’ll never have the luxury of finding your name on a mug, keychain, or lanyard at the gift shop. Everybody will not like your name, some will see it as ghetto, unprofessional, or simply uneducated on your parents’ part but that is okay. Be your best self and do not worry about those people who do not appreciate who you are and what your name stands for. My name has been mispronounced too many times to count but I’d never let the value of my own name slip just to fit in.
All that being said you are to treat your name like the gift it is, the gift from your parents to you, the gift from god to them. Stand strong on having your name correctly pronounced so others can treat it like a gift to. You wear that name like a badge of honor and remember there is not another girl in the world with a name like you or me.
-Sincerely, A Black Girl ready to take on the world
By: Ii’cia Miracle Sykes